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Reflections from March 20, 2022—Day 9 of my journey.

Three months.

It had been three months since we lost our son, Maxwell Seraphim. And around this time in my journey, something inside me began to shift.

I still don’t believe my son passed for a reason—some things in life are simply too painful to be explained away. But what I began to realize was that even in his absence, Max was changing my life in ways I never thought possible.

The Turnback Moment

There are moments in life—some call them turnback moments—when everything you knew is turned upside down. When a tragedy strikes, when an epiphany hits, or when a life-altering event forces you to stop in your tracks.

You’re standing at a crossroads: you can turn back to the way things were, or you can step forward into something new… unknown… and life-changing.

Losing Max was my turnback moment.

In the days and weeks that followed, I was lost. Not just grieving, but directionless. As a father who lost his child, there weren’t many spaces where I felt I could turn. Support was limited, and I suffered in silence—feeling the pressure to stay strong while silently unraveling inside.

But then something happened.

I discovered that Max is my why.

He became the reason I began to dust myself off. The reason I found the strength to move forward. The reason I committed to living my life differently—from that moment on.

Life After Loss: A New Meaning

My life before loss will always be part of me. But life after loss took on an entirely new meaning.

That meaning is rooted in purpose.
That purpose is rooted in Max.
And from that place of purpose, I’ve built a new mindset:
I will live fully. I will love fiercely. I will grow daily.

So that my son, from wherever he is, can look down and be proud of the man I am becoming.

Find Your Turnback Moment

If you’re reading this and going through something that feels insurmountable—if you feel lost, broken, or hopeless—I want to tell you: this could be your turnback moment.

These moments don’t always come with fanfare. Sometimes they’re quiet. Sometimes they come in the form of grief, failure, or trauma. But they come. And when they do, you have a choice.

You can let that moment break you. Or you can let it be the beginning of something greater.

Find your why. Embrace it. Never let it go.
And don’t ever look back.

Because when you find your why, it will drive you forward—through every storm, every setback, every fear.
It will lead you to greatness, even if that greatness looks different than what you imagined.